Four Mental Laws: Use ‘Em or Lose’Em

The laws we are all aware of are the laws created by man. However, there is another set of laws, given by God, that exist for our benefit. We should be aware of these mental laws. The mental laws exist, and they are timeless. They are keys to becoming successful and achieving goals for millions of people. In fact, as we study the highest achievers, we learn that they believe in these four mental laws and put them into practice. The four mental laws are a major part of their success. Once again, if we all learn and apply these concepts, they will lead to success.

 

The best ways to learn the laws that follow is the old-fashioned way: read the definition followed by an example. The reader should put some thought into each law and understand the power and impact of each concept. Then, the laws should be tested, either by putting in your own examples or looking out for the laws at work in the future.

 

Law of Attraction

 

The law of attraction means we can bring into existence the things we want in life. The law of attraction works like magnets. Two magnets will align and attach to each other on given sides based on their magnetism. The law works in various ways in life, but the concept remains the same: each person can get whatever they want in life. This should be read again. We all are “magnets” who can attract things.

 

LEARN TO ATTRACT POSITIVE THINGS TO SEE POSITIVE RESULTS!

 

Law of Practice

 

The law of practice means that true success requires constant practice. Practice means work. We must put in our fair share of work to become successful. This is a timeless principle that is etched in stone. Everyone, regardless of race, who has achieved any goal, has used this concept. The law of practice can be best described by using an old saying: “practice makes perfect.”

 

 PRACTICE AND YOU WILL SEE POSITIVE RESULTS IMMEDIATELY!

 

Law of Reciprocity

 

The law of reciprocity means what you give will come back to you abundantly. Giving is a concept that many African Americans do not understand. It is a powerful concept that we must tap into to become successful. Simply put, you get what you give.  Another way to look at this law is karma: what comes around goes around. We must remember two important points:

  • you should not give ONLY because you will get something in return; instead give for the sake of helping others.
  • you should not take from others and expect to get something in return; this never works.

 GIVE ABUNDANTLY TO BE REWARDED FOR PROVIDING SERVICE!

 

Law of Expectancy

 

The law of expectancy means whatever you expect will come to pass in your life. It is perhaps the most powerful of the four laws. If you have high expectations, you will seek ways to fulfill those expectations. On the other hand, if you have low expectations, you will seek ways to fulfill those expectations. The goal is to continually raise your expectations, then your mind will work toward making those expectations your reality.

 

EXPECT SUCCESS AND YOU WILL BECOME SUCCESSFUL!

 

 

Understand how to follow the mental laws! Use ’em or lose ’em!

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You Gotta Have GRIT

You Gotta Have GRIT

GRIT

Grit can be defined as determination. It is so important that it needs more explanation than a simple definition can offer. GRIT is not only determination, but also determination in the face of insurmountable obstacles. In this life, we all face problems that will appear to be impossible to overcome. We all face daunting challenges. We all face difficulties that look like the end of the road is near. GRIT is what keeps us going despite these burdens.

GRIT is tied to faith. Faith is the belief that things are, or will be, better than they look now. Faith sees what is possible, not what is current. Obstacles and challenges look like victories and successes when we apply faith to our situation. GRIT helps our faith while we work toward the outcomes we believe will happen.

GRIT is tied to perseverance. Perseverance is the ability to press on in the face of difficulty. Perseverance allows us to take the next step forward, even though it may lead to another challenge. Perseverance helps us to meet the next challenge, and work toward a successful outcome. GRIT is the substance of perseverance, the ability to survive and advance.

GRIT is tied to patience. Patience is required when the results we seek are delayed. Sometimes in life there is no immediate gratification. Instead, we can wait for extended periods of time before we achieve the success we seek. GRIT allows us to be patient, while the work we put in starts to show tangible results.

GRIT is tied to passion. Passion is the desire to chase or pursue. Passion requires strong desire, even when it is difficult or challenging to continue. Passion allows us find that spark, and then use that spark to move forward. GRIT fills the void when passion declines and needs an injection of enthusiasm.

GRIT is tied to motivation. Motivation toward a positive result requires positive thoughts and actions. We are always motivated. Motivation to achieve great things in the face of hardships requires constant reinvention and reflection. We may not always be motivated to keep going. GRIT is the fuel behind our motivation when it pushes us beyond what we think we are capable of achieving.

 

If you want to push yourself to the limit…

If you want to overcome challenges and hardships…

If you want to recover from setbacks and heartbreaks…

If you want to improve your life…

If you want to achieve greater success…

 

You gotta have GRIT.

I created the Motivation for the World blog to have a powerful voice and positive impact. The articles posted are for all people who are seeking better results, self-improvement, and life-changing success. Along with my other blog, Wake Up/Rise Up, I get people talking about issues that affect us all.
I am the proud author of three self-help books: Wake Up! 42 Ways to Improve Black America Now!, the follow-up Rise Up! 42 Additional Ways to Improve Black America Now! , and Defining Success: One Word at a Time.
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Mental Health Issues: Help Is Available

There are many people in our society who are experiencing mental health issues. Often, these people do not know where to turn to get help. This is an outstanding resource for those who suffer from mental illnesses. The struggle is real, but so is the help being offered by people who care.

 

Another Life Foundation

Another Life Foundation

https://www.anotherlifefoundation.com/

 

Please feel free to add additional resources and links into the comments section below. Also distribute this resource and others to those in need of help.

 

 

I created the Motivation for the World blog to have a powerful voice and positive impact. The articles posted are for all people who are seeking better results, self-improvement, and life-changing success. Along with my other blog, Wake Up/Rise Up, I am able to get people talking about issues that affect us all.
I am the proud author of three self-help books: Wake Up! 42 Ways to Improve Black America Now!, the follow-up Rise Up! 42 Additional Ways to Improve Black America Now! , and Defining Success: One Word at a Time.
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I Write. You Read. We Learn. Together…

Motivation for the World: One Person at a Time

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I created the Motivation for the World blog to have a powerful voice and positive impact. The articles posted are for all people who are seeking better results, self-improvement, and life-changing success. Along with my other blog, Wake Up/Rise Up, I am able to get people talking about issues that affect us all.

I am the proud author of three self-help books: Wake Up! 42 Ways to Improve Black America Now!, the follow-up Rise Up! 42 Additional Ways to Improve Black America Now! , and Defining Success: One Word at a Time.

I write. You read, We learn. Together.

Contact me:

Email: gary@motivationfortheworld.com

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Body Language 101: Making Great First Impressions that Last

Body Language 101: Making Great First Impressions that Last

Handshake

Everyone must master the subtle art of improving our body language to promote a better image in our society. Body language speaks volumes about how a person is feeling, their outlook on life, and how they conduct their business. A concept directly related to body language is making a first impression. First impressions are extremely important; those who leave good impressions will be more likely to achieve success than those who do not.

There are many skills that will improve our body language. When combining proper body language with using proper English and dressing for success, there is no doubt that African Americans can compete, and win in any situation.  We simply need to master the skills that so many high achievers use to guarantee their success. The following skills are keys to improving our body language.

Demonstrate Good Posture

We should stand up straight and hold our head high. When sitting, we should lean slightly forward and be sure to be upright without slouching. These actions show confidence. They present a positive outlook and give off a good first impression.

Maintain Proper Eye Contact

Those who make good eye contact are perceived as trustworthy. We should learn how to look others directly in the eye when speaking. This is especially important when we are trying to make a favorable impression.

Give a Firm Handshake

A firm handshake shows confidence. It also shows strength and eagerness. Those who give firm handshakes are taken seriously and they are well respected.

Use Proper Hand Gestures

Hand gestures suggest excitement and energy. When speaking, use proper hand gestures to make points clear and emphasize ideas. Be careful not to constantly move the hands because it portrays nervousness. Use hand movements that come naturally; do not force them.

Add Appropriate Responses

When engaged in conversations, use appropriate responses that include both verbal and non-verbal reactions. Such reactions include appropriate facial expressions, short pauses before speaking, and verbal responses to show that you are listening. Proper responses lead to more meaningful conversations.

Don’t Forget to Smile

A smile works regardless of the situation at hand. It disarms people and gives the most positive response. Those who smile often are more likely to demonstrate their positive outlook. People tend to respond favorably to people who smile.

Each of these concepts will allow us to give off the correct body language and make better impressions. Everyone should put these things into practice immediately. They could be the difference between opening doors to new opportunities or closing doors to lost opportunities.

 

Gary A. McAbee created the Motivation for the World blog to have a powerful voice and positive impact in society. The articles posted are relevant to all people who hope to improve their lives and unlock their unlimited potential. Along with his other blog, Wake Up/Rise Up, Gary is able to get people talking about issues that affect us all. He is the proud author of three self-help books: Wake Up! 42 Ways to Improve Black America Now!, the follow-up Rise Up! 42 Additional Ways to Improve Black America Now! , and Defining Success: One Word at a Time.

 

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Six Year Anniversary: Motivation for the World Blog by Gary A. McAbee

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My Motivation for the World blog turns six!

Six years, 77 blog posts, and thousands of readers and page views. Thank you!

In celebration of this accomplishment, here is a list of my top ten blog posts with links.

This is Motivation for the World! Enjoy…

 

Develop and Use the IT Factor

Personal Declaration of Independence

When Life Gives You Lemons

You Might as Well Excel

The Quintessence of a Role Model

Do You Have a Positive Mental Outlook?

My Favorite Poem: Don’t Quit

18 Things Mentally Strong People Do

Kick Plates: A Story About Perception

Defining Success: One Word At a Time

 

 

My Moses Complex

Promised Land

In my life I have taught many students how to lead more productive and successful lives. My books about self-motivation and self-determination have been read by many adult learners seeking to improve their lives. The inspirational quotes and motivational prints I have created have been used by many people looking for a daily dose of encouragement and support. The advice I have given has empowered many individuals to persevere instead of giving up. In short, I have provided motivation for the world, one person at a time. I believe I have led a lot of people to their Promised Land.

Despite this, I have an eerie feeling that I am supposed to watch people cross over into the Promised Land, but I am not supposed to cross over with them. I call this my Moses Complex. If you know the story of Moses, you know that he led the Israelites out of Egypt. Along the way, he fought for the Israelites. He received the Ten Commandments and taught the Israelites. He led the Israelites through the wilderness to the Promised Land. Yet he was not allowed to enter with them. Instead, when his earthly duties were completed, he was taken up into heaven.

I don’t want this comparison to be misconstrued. I am not Moses, nor am I a leader of his magnitude. However, I do think my life has elements of Moses’ story and his “journey.” Just like Moses, I think I have been called to lead people to their Promised Land. Moses answered a call that encouraged him to become a leader. I answered a call that encouraged me to become a teacher. Moses had doubts about his ability to lead. I had doubts about my ability to lead. Moses motivated and inspired people to move forward against all odds. I motivate and inspire people to move forward against all odds. Moses saw the Promised Land, but did not cross into it. I saw the Promised Land…

Here is where my confusion lies. Am I going to enter the Promised Land, or am I on this earth to be the conduit that allows others to get there? Sometimes it feels like I will never get there. My Promised Land is out of reach. I am sure this is a “normal” feeling. Like many people, I am my own worst critic and I allow self-doubt to take control far too often. On the other hand, sometimes it feels like my Promised Land is my ability to help and serve others. So maybe I am already there! This is another aspect of my Moses Complex.

There are various complexes that psychologists claim can explain many human behaviors. We have heard of the Oedipus (forbidden sexual desires) complex, the Napoleon (lack of size or stature) complex, and the Superman (unhealthy sense of responsibility) complex. But is there a Moses complex? I did a little research to find out. It turns out that there is a Moses Complex, and I am not the only one who thinks about it. I stumbled upon a blog post by Dean Waggenspack that summarizes the Moses Complex perfectly (I encourage you to read it here). One line in particular stood out for me…

“But because Moses has the knowledge, experience, insight and leadership role it should be apparent to all others that they should follow him.” (Waggenspack, 2012)

This my friends is where my hang up lies. It is the core of my Moses Complex. People tell me that my teaching and writings is great- knowledge. I have been told I have a good combination of abilities and expertise- experience. I have people who trust me enough to ask me for advice and seek inspiration- insight. I have been put in countless positions where I have needed to guide and direct people and their decision-making processes- leadership. Therefore, “it should be apparent to all others that they should follow (me).”

The irony in all of this is we never know how many people actually “follow” our lead. It is impossible to know, especially in today’s social media driven society. Sure we can check our “likes” and “followers”, but how can we determine how many people take and apply the things we have to offer. For example, who knows what impact their generosity has on others? A wise woman once said if we knew the true impact we have on others, our heads would explode! So I guess it is best we don’t know. In my case…

  • Do I have a million “followers”?
  • Are people in countries around the world actively reading my blog posts?
  • How many people bought one of my books and referred it to one of their friends?
  • Is one of my motivational prints hanging in a frame in someone’s home or office?
  • What happened after someone used my advice and it worked for them?

If I knew the answers to these questions, maybe I could shed my Moses Complex. Maybe I am meant to show the way, but not to actually get to the Promised Land. Maybe I am meant to enter with those I am helping on their journey. Maybe I am already in the Promised Land. Maybe my head is about to explode!

 

Reference:

Waggenspack, D. (2012, December 12). Teaching– The Moses Complex [Blog Post]. Retrieved from https://deanwaggenspack.wordpress.com/2012/12/02/teaching-the-moses-complex/

Self-Reflection: Clark Kent vs Superman

Sometimes in life one must stop, take a self-assessment, and make necessary changes. I feel like I am at this point: the moment when you realize you need to take a look in the mirror to see who you really are.

Like many people, I can relate to characters in books, television, and movies. One character I always felt a connection to is Superman. Superman’s earthly journey started with humble beginnings as Clark Kent. He was just an “ordinary” person until he learned how to unlock his extraordinary abilities. He became Superman. Once Superman learned how to harness his power, he used it for good as a way to make things better. He eventually became great at everything he did, as long as he had his cape and super suit.

But Superman was really Clark Kent in disguise. Clark was the opposite of Superman in many ways. He was somewhat clumsy and socially awkward. He wasn’t very confident or sure of himself and his abilities. Clark seemed to want to reveal who he was, but every time he got the courage to tell his secret something got in the way. So he toiled in anonymity. In the meantime something strange happened: the intangible qualities he possessed as Clark Kent became as “strong” as the tangible qualities he possessed as Superman. So sometimes Clark wanted to be Superman; sometimes he wanted to be Clark.

Now you may be wondering how this well- known and beloved fictional character relates to this writer. Well I can relate to Clark Kent. I am cut from the same the clumsy, socially-awkward, unsure, and unconfident cloth as Clark Kent. I also learned how to unlock extraordinary abilities. Therefore, I am Superman too. My issue is learning how to harness my power and use my “super” powers for good.

What a lot of people miss is Superman has a complex. Superman wants to save the world, but sometimes he can’t. Psychologists have given this a title: the Superman complex. By definition, it is:

  • Superman complex– the feeling that others cannot perform one or more tasks successfully and sense of responsibility to save others

Superman feels he should be able to save the world. In one movie, he tried to perform so many life-saving deeds simultaneously that he did not have time to “save” the person he loved the most. This made him angry, and it caused him to question everything about himself and why he was given such extraordinary abilities. I can relate.

What a lot of people miss Clark Kent has a complex too. Clark Kent is torn between being “ordinary” and being super. My definition is:

  • Clark Kent complex– deciding how and when to use intangible qualities that go unnoticed or reveal tangible quantities no one knows exist

Clark Kent knows his intangible qualities make him great, but the world doesn’t. He also knows his tangible qualities as Superman make him great, but the world doesn’t. So he goes through life swinging back and forth. Clark Kent wants people to see that he is great. He wants to reveal who he really is, but without his super powers he can’t figure out how to do it. I can relate.

The world loves tangible qualities: good looks, physical appearance, wealth, material things. The world sees the “good’ in Superman. On the other hand, the world overlooks intangible qualities: care, compassion, helpfulness, love and support. The world does not see the “good” in Clark Kent.

Sometimes in life one must stop, take a self-assessment, and make necessary changes. I feel like I am at this point: the moment when you realize you need to take a look in the mirror to see who you really are.

Who am I? I am Clark Kent, but I am super too.

To Talk or Not to Talk: I Don’t Know Either (and that’s a good thing)

I don’t like to talk a lot. Sometimes people take this as a sign of being disinterested. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Instead of running my mouth, I like to watch, observe, listen, and learn more than talk. For me, the old adage is true: God gave me one mouth and two ears for a reason. So if I am not necessarily talking to you at length, do not take offense. If you must engage, try asking what I am watching and observing while listening and learning. Then we can have a conversation. I try to control the amount of talking I do. Not everyone does!

If I am talking a lot, then you have one or two things going for you. You either sparked my interest by trying to figure me out, or I just like you in that given moment. Perhaps nothing makes me pay attention more than a person who tries to solve the mystery that is me. You can’t because I am too complex! But, I love giving insights about me here and there that will make you say “AHA”! I am a closed book, so if you have read a few of my chapters then consider yourself lucky. I must have allowed you to turn a few pages in my book after telling you what they might say.

Or it could be I just like you (in that particular moment). We all have a filter for how much we talk to our friends and acquaintances. Some people get in to my inner-circle and I’ll talk to them, others don’t. Wait, I just realized my inner-circle is damn near nonexistent! It consists of one person who I communicate with almost every day. That’s it. But I do have a few others who enter my inner-circle whenever we get together. In those moments I like them! They can get me to talk, but I am still watching, observing, listening, and learning. If they can’t get me to talk when we get together…

I have a creed that I want to share. If you have heard this before, then it means you are very important to me. If not, I will let you have it anyway: when I speak, I know what I am talking about. I don’t fake the funk, chew the fat, nor shoot the breeze. You know how some people just talk as if they know something (or everything). Well that is not me. I will tell you when I don’t know something. Or you can take my silence to mean I don’t know. But when I talk I speak with knowledge and authority. I am strictly business most of the time, especially when I talk. Sure I will joke like everyone else, but most of the time if you hear me speaking it is something important and I know what I am talking about.

Speaking of joking, I’d like to think I have a good sense of humor. I guess you can say I have chime –in humor, not stand-up humor. In other words, I can enhance your story by adding my own brand of humor as needed. I am not the greatest of storytellers. I can turn a funny story into a “guess you had to be there” story in a minute. On the other hand, if you tell a “guess you had to be there” story, I can help you make it funny. Sometimes my humor comes out on cue and then it is funny! Some of the time I can say something “funny” without thinking it was funny. On rare occasions I will crack myself up as I am talking. I actually like talking then!

So what things do I really like to talk about? It depends on who I am speaking to. If you make it into my inner-circle then nothing is off limits. If not, we can talk sports… sports… and more sports. We can also discuss successful people, successful things, and successful outcomes. Hell, let’s just talk about success! We can also wax poetic about the best of my/our past. I love to get nostalgic, so if we shared good times and good memories bring them out. Let’s rap about it! You can sprinkle in talking about politics as long as you keep an open-mind (no Obama bashing alright). Honestly I think that’s about all I want to talk about. If you can get me to talk at length about something else, then I must like you (in that particular moment of course).

Want me to talk? Then ask me to teach you something I know. I will open the floodgates and you might not get me to stop talking. As crazy as it sounds, for someone who doesn’t like to talk, I sure like to teach! It is as if I become someone else when I am teaching. Give me a good history lesson and a captive audience: it’s on! Ask me how to write with purpose or to explain a success principle or two: let’s go!  You can be prepared to meet the professor when you want an answer and I’m the one who can supply it. It fascinates me how I can teach for hours, but I can’t talk for 5 minutes. Go figure!

I will let you in on a secret. Sometimes I “talk” better as a writer than I do when I am actually talking. Or maybe I am good at writing what I should be saying. Or maybe when I write I am really saying what I should be talking. As I said to a dear friend when I couldn’t find the right words to say, I tend to get it right when I write. So maybe I should do more writing and even less talking. I could write what I want to say and let people read it. Wait a minute- most people don’t read. Scratch that idea. I guess I still have to talk, but only if I know what I am talking about!

If you got this far, I wonder if you are thinking “what was this all about”?  Honestly I don’t know either! Maybe it is for someone who is just like me. You know me now: I’m the introverted personality type who doesn’t like to talk a lot. Maybe it is for me to rethink why I do not talk a lot. Maybe it is to prove that talking is not always better than watching, observing, listening, and learning. Maybe it was just something to “talk” about! Anyway I think I “told” you more information than you needed to know. Let’s recap what I said to find out shall we…

I like to watch, observe, listen and learn more than I like to talk.

If I am talking maybe you sparked my interest because you are interested in me. Or I am talking because I like you.

I speak with knowledge and authority.

I can inject humor into your story, but not into my own.

I can talk about sports (and a few other things) all day.

When teaching, I can talk for a long, long, long time.

I can write the words I want to say better than I can actually say them.

I have no idea why we talked about the reasons why I talk and do not like to talk!

Introvert

2017 If… In 2018

2017 If… In 2018

 

In 2017, if you walked by sight, try walking by faith in 2018.

In 2017, if you thought about the negative, try accentuating the positive in 2018.

In 2017, if you spoke hard times into existence, try declaring life into every situation in 2018.

In 2017, if fear dominated you in any way, try summoning courage to overcome all challenges in 2018.

In 2017, if you asked man for advice, try asking God for revelation in 2018.

In 2017, if you stood in your own way, try entering onto a new and different path in 2018.

In 2017, if you lost your direction, try refocusing to move forward in 2018.

In 2017, if you gave up, try persevering and persisting in 2018.

In 2017, if you accepted losing a battle or war, try declaring victory over all hardships in 2018.

In 2017, if you felt inferior or unworthy, try believing in yourself and your God-given talents in 2018.

For more motivation and inspiration in 2018, visit Motivation for the World by Gary A. McAbee. Gary is an author, motivational speaker, and mentor.