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Motivation for the World: One Person at a Time

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I created the Motivation for the World blog to have a powerful voice and positive impact. The articles posted are for all people who are seeking better results, self-improvement, and life-changing success. Along with my other blog, Wake Up/Rise Up, I am able to get people talking about issues that affect us all.

I am the proud author of three self-help books: Wake Up! 42 Ways to Improve Black America Now!, the follow-up Rise Up! 42 Additional Ways to Improve Black America Now! , and Defining Success: One Word at a Time.

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Self-Reflection: Clark Kent vs Superman

Sometimes in life one must stop, take a self-assessment, and make necessary changes. I feel like I am at this point: the moment when you realize you need to take a look in the mirror to see who you really are.

Like many people, I can relate to characters in books, television, and movies. One character I always felt a connection to is Superman. Superman’s earthly journey started with humble beginnings as Clark Kent. He was just an “ordinary” person until he learned how to unlock his extraordinary abilities. He became Superman. Once Superman learned how to harness his power, he used it for good as a way to make things better. He eventually became great at everything he did, as long as he had his cape and super suit.

But Superman was really Clark Kent in disguise. Clark was the opposite of Superman in many ways. He was somewhat clumsy and socially awkward. He wasn’t very confident or sure of himself and his abilities. Clark seemed to want to reveal who he was, but every time he got the courage to tell his secret something got in the way. So he toiled in anonymity. In the meantime something strange happened: the intangible qualities he possessed as Clark Kent became as “strong” as the tangible qualities he possessed as Superman. So sometimes Clark wanted to be Superman; sometimes he wanted to be Clark.

Now you may be wondering how this well- known and beloved fictional character relates to this writer. Well I can relate to Clark Kent. I am cut from the same the clumsy, socially-awkward, unsure, and unconfident cloth as Clark Kent. I also learned how to unlock extraordinary abilities. Therefore, I am Superman too. My issue is learning how to harness my power and use my “super” powers for good.

What a lot of people miss is Superman has a complex. Superman wants to save the world, but sometimes he can’t. Psychologists have given this a title: the Superman complex. By definition, it is:

  • Superman complex– the feeling that others cannot perform one or more tasks successfully and sense of responsibility to save others

Superman feels he should be able to save the world. In one movie, he tried to perform so many life-saving deeds simultaneously that he did not have time to “save” the person he loved the most. This made him angry, and it caused him to question everything about himself and why he was given such extraordinary abilities. I can relate.

What a lot of people miss Clark Kent has a complex too. Clark Kent is torn between being “ordinary” and being super. My definition is:

  • Clark Kent complex– deciding how and when to use intangible qualities that go unnoticed or reveal tangible quantities no one knows exist

Clark Kent knows his intangible qualities make him great, but the world doesn’t. He also knows his tangible qualities as Superman make him great, but the world doesn’t. So he goes through life swinging back and forth. Clark Kent wants people to see that he is great. He wants to reveal who he really is, but without his super powers he can’t figure out how to do it. I can relate.

The world loves tangible qualities: good looks, physical appearance, wealth, material things. The world sees the “good’ in Superman. On the other hand, the world overlooks intangible qualities: care, compassion, helpfulness, love and support. The world does not see the “good” in Clark Kent.

Sometimes in life one must stop, take a self-assessment, and make necessary changes. I feel like I am at this point: the moment when you realize you need to take a look in the mirror to see who you really are.

Who am I? I am Clark Kent, but I am super too.

Success: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Success… an excerpt from the soon to be released book:

Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

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We will arrive at the finish of our journey together by defining the word success. Did you notice the definition of success is really about an outcome or result? Somehow we have added more to this definition, so the word success takes on many different meanings. Success is usually connected to something that is good. I think we can agree that the most common use of the word success is to associate it with a positive outcome. However, by definition success can be a positive or negative outcome.

For example, the police can be successful at catching thief, while another thief can be successful at getting away. This shows that success happens all the time and it is inevitable regardless of the situation. We always get an outcome or result, so we are always successful! No matter what you do, success is guaranteed. No matter what you try, success is guaranteed. No matter where you go, success is guaranteed. Understand exactly what this means: success can be defined as a positive or negative outcome or result.

To become a success, start by defining it for yourself. Claim victory in the beginning of the process. Build enough faith to believe you are destined to be a success. Write what would happen if and when you pursue success. Dream big and let those thoughts plant the seeds of your future success. Develop a vision that supports your idea of what success looks like to you. Turn these things into a burning passion for becoming a success. Seek various sources of motivation to help you start toward success. Compose a plan that will allow you to complete goals on your way to success.

Keep defining success for yourself. Study and build your knowledge base to lead yourself to success. Improve your character so it will help you find the success you deserve. Learn how to work harder and smarter so success will come to you. Create your own luck and you will increase your likelihood of experiencing greater success. Take calculated risks to uncover opportunities that will lead to success. Embrace failure of a part of the process of achieving success. Find your hidden resource of perseverance in the midst of searching for success. Continue to rely on your integrity as you get closer to success. Refine your focus as you see success first-hand and experience it more often. Enjoy success as you live the life you have always wanted to live.

 

Affirmation: I finally understand the steps that I must take as I make steady progress toward my ultimate goal: success!!!

 

Previous Chapter (20): Patience: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 19: Focus: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 18: Integrity: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 17: Failure: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 16: Luck: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 15: Perseverance: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 14: Work: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 13: Risk: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 12: Knowledge: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 11: Character: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 10: Courage: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 9: Fear: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 8: Motivation: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 7: Goal: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 6: Passion: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 5: Vision: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 4: Dream: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 3: If: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 2: Faith: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

Chapter 1: Victory: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

 

Patience: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Patience… an excerpt from the soon to be released book:

Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

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Just in case you have not noticed, the success process outlined in this book will require a lot of patience. Patience can be thought of by looking at two words: ability and willingness. You have the ability to be patient. By definition, patience includes the ability to hold back your desire when it is delayed. The question is whether or not you have the willingness to wait. This is the choice patience demands from all of us on a daily basis. We know possibilities victory holds, and we understand how to see them through our dreams and vision. We also know the success process may require perseverance and failure. When we put it all together, do we have enough patience to go through the steps regardless of how long it may take to see success?

We live in a world where instant gratification rules. We want everything now. In fact, most of us want everything yesterday because today is already too late. While speed works in many arenas, chances are it will not work as we pursue whatever measure of success we are seeking. This is because success requires a step-by-step process, and this process can take a lot longer than we are willing to wait. I believe this is one of the major reasons why more people do not experience victory and success on a daily basis. It takes too long! I strongly suggest that you get used to waiting and embrace it to some degree as well. Success requires perseverance and patience. There is no secret formula.

Unfortunately, it is rare that tremendous success comes quickly. We tend to believe that successful people arrive at their destination overnight. Our society paints a picture that says we do not have to pay our dues to become more successful. We only see the victory of successful people, but do not see the process they used to find success. We hear things about people who get ahead: they have the right connections, or they have so much luck because they get all the breaks. While this does happen occasionally, in reality their road to success may have taken many years before it became a reality. Their road required some level of patience that is usually unseen by the outside world.

I believe the amount of patience we are willing to display is a direct correlation to the value of the success we seek. Simply put, if it is that important, you will wait with some degree of patience while you work toward making your dreams become reality. Building your patience requires a lot of… patience! It also requires a thorough understanding that patience is a process itself, and it is also a part of the larger process of success. Now that you know, you must fight against the urge to expect things today. Hold off instant gratification. Instead, set realistic expectations and use patience, even if things do not appear quickly as we wish.

 

Affirmation: I believe in the process of becoming more successful through patience and faith that my victory is within reach.

 

The Last Chapter (21): Success… an excerpt from the soon to be released book: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

Previous Chapter (19): Focus: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 18: Integrity: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 17: Failure: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 16: Luck: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 15: Perseverance: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 14: Work: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 13: Risk: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 12: Knowledge: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 11: Character: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 10: Courage: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 9: Fear: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 8: Motivation: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 7: Goal: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 6: Passion: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 5: Vision: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 4: Dream: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 3: If: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 2: Faith: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

Chapter 1: Victory: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

Focus: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

 

Focus… an excerpt from the soon to be released book:

Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

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A quick review of the definition of focus reveals an interesting truth. Focus is simply something that holds or keeps our attention. Notice the parallel between focus and so many of the other success keywords that can include both positive and negative outcomes. We can use our focus to be attracted to the right things or the wrong things. Once again, it is our choice of which way we will go. If you are searching for victory, focus on something positive. If you are trying to achieve a goal, focus on something positive. If you are trying to improve your character, focus on something positive. I think you can see the recurring theme of using our focus to attract positive results.

Any examination of this word requires usually revolves around losing focus more than keeping it. When studying success, this is definitely the case. We tend to lose focus when we take our eyes off the prize. We can lose sight of our inevitable victory as hardships and setbacks occur. If we think we are far from success, we can lose sight of our dreams and vision. During our daily routine filled with ups-and -downs, we can lose sight of our passion and motivation. All of these things are ways in which we can lose focus. Keeping focus is a challenge, especially when failure occurs. Remember, failure is a part of the success process. Also remember not to let failure distract you from your focus….

Successful people know they need to keep their focus before success arrives, when it finally does appear, and after starts to fade. They do not get complacent or stop to take a break. Instead, they stay hungry. They either attempt to build on their current success, or look to new challenges to achieve the next victory. Successful people set new goals and start the success process all over again. Sure, their journey may be filled with new obstacles and hardships, but one thing is certain. Once successful people have a sense of achievement, they seek new challenges instead of losing focus.

How can you master the art of keeping your focus, or regaining your focus to become more successful? I have provided a few activities that can certainly help. If you liked the Success Book project, what is stopping you from adding more information to it? If you liked completing the “Wish Upon a Star” exercise, what is stopping you from doing it again? If you liked the “Goal Setting Worksheet”, what is preventing you from writing down additional goals now? These are three examples of activities that can help you either focus or refocus, and get started on the path to victory again.

In summary, both failure and success require us to focus as a way to keep our eyes on the prize. If you lose sight of your initial dreams and vision, do an exercise to refocus. If you win a prize or complete a goal, find the next challenge to keep your passion and motivation high. True, lasting and habitual successes will not allow you to lose focus. The moment you do, it is like taking apart a building, one brick at a time. Eventually, the process of removing the bricks will lead to a collapse. Losing focus could easily lead to the destruction of the success you have spent so much time trying to build. Do not let this happen to you!

 

Affirmation: I focus of the end-results of ultimate victory and success based upon my vision, dreams, and goals.

 

Next Chapter (20): Patience… an excerpt from the soon to be released book: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

Previous Chapter (18): Integrity: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 17: Failure: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 16: Luck: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 15: Perseverance: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 14: Work: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 13: Risk: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 12: Knowledge: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 11: Character: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 10: Courage: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 9: Fear: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 8: Motivation: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 7: Goal: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 6: Passion: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 5: Vision: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 4: Dream: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 3: If: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 2: Faith: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

Chapter 1: Victory: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

Integrity: Motivation for the World, One Person at a Time

Integrity… an excerpt from the soon to be released book:

Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

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Integrity refers to your belief-system and how you follow your beliefs regardless of the situation. Regardless of where you are in the success process, you should have a clear and defined set of values that guide your life and your decision-making. These values can be corrupted, so your level of integrity is how you stick to your principles even when challenges happen. For successful people, adherence to their code survives the test of time and any hardships that occur.

On the road to success, you will encounter many obstacles, hardships, and challenges. Sometimes you will be able to meet these challenges head-on, do battle with them, and come out on top. Other times it will not be that simple. These are the times when we must face a decision to stay the course, give up the fight, or find a shortcut that might even the odds. Your integrity kicks in when you seek a solution that may test your code of ethics and morality. Will you take the high road, or will you take the low road?

When your victory is uncertain, will your keep your integrity? If your dreams and vision start to blur, will you keep your integrity? What happens to your level of integrity when you lack or lose motivation? Once you realize you missed achieving one of your goals, does your integrity lead you to assess, recalculate, and retry achieving your goal? While fear overtakes you and courage is nowhere to be found, will your integrity stick with you or let you down? As work begins to drag on and one, will your integrity allow you to do a good job anyway? Will the failures that are sure to come cause you to abandon your integrity?

The answers to these questions lie in our use of our ethics, which are also based on our belief-system. Ethics are an integral part of integrity, but each of us has our own code of ethics we live by. What is a code of ethics? It is a set of rules or principles that are established as personal guidelines. Everyone has a code of ethics: guidelines on what things they would and would not do in a given situation. Only you know the line not to cross in each situation; sometimes this line goes against the integrity you possess. External forces can have influence over this as well. Someone may or may not be able to talk you into doing something that goes against your ethics and integrity. A situation may or may not be able to make you go against your ethics. Integrity is holding on to your beliefs in spite of your current situation. I say it is striving to do the right thing, even when others do not. Our integrity will be challenged, especially when we take our eyes off our own road to see what others are doing. A surefire way to determine if you are doing this is to use this test: ask yourself if it seems like everyone is bending some rules to get ahead? If you say yes, then you have the potential to go along with the crowd, or go against the grain to see the levels of “success” others achieve.

… So you must keep your integrity high even when success seems far away. Live by your code of ethics to achieve victory. Let your integrity, and the knowledge that you will keep it, fuel your passion for achieving your dreams and goals. Use your integrity to build the courage required to overcome fear. Integrity allows you to minimize risk, which in turn can be used to create luck through recognizing opportunities. Finally, you can let failures come and go because you know they will not cause you to lose your integrity.

 

Affirmation: I understand how the process demands that I keep my integrity as I achieve greater levels of success.

 

Next Chapter (19): Focus… an excerpt from the soon to be released book: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

Previous Chapter (17): Failure: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 16: Luck: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 15: Perseverance: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 14: Work: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 13: Risk: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 12: Knowledge: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 11: Character: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 10: Courage: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 9: Fear: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 8: Motivation: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 7: Goal: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 6: Passion: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 5: Vision: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 4: Dream: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 3: If: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 2: Faith: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

Chapter 1: Victory: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

 

Failure: Motivation for the World, One Person at a Time

 

Failure… an excerpt from the soon to be released book:

Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

Failure

It is an amazing concept! The thought that failure will be a part of the process of success is hard to believe. Let me be clear: failure will be a part of your journey toward victory. It is highly unlikely that you will undertake any task or series of tasks without making a mistake or two along the way. These mistakes are failures, and too many failures can end the pursuit of success. In order to understand the idea completely, we should break down the meaning of failure.

Failure means not achieving the desired outcome; it means not having success. Therefore it runs counter to everything we are discussing in this book. Yet, failure must be included here because it is a part of the success process. If you are not failing at something, you are not trying hard enough! It sounds cliché, but it is true that failure simply reveals one way something cannot be done. The crossroads we all face when we fail is what we will do next. This is where some people persevere, and others fade away. Some fight harder, while others end the battle. Some people advance, but others retreat. We need to look at failure from this perspective…

You cannot let failure cause you to doubt your victory. You cannot let failure shake your faith. You cannot let failure turn your “if” into never. You cannot let failure ruin your dreams. You cannot let failure steal your vision. You cannot let failure rob you of your motivation. You cannot let failure change your goals. You cannot let failure heighten your fears. You cannot let failure finish your quest for knowledge. You cannot let failure stop you from taking risks. You cannot let failure change your character. You cannot let failure prevent you from doing your work. You cannot let failure impede your ability creating luck. You cannot let failure end your need to persevere.

You cannot let failure stand in the way of your success! Never, ever!

…As we close the book on failure, it is important to understand that the world continues to turn regardless of whether or not you face your fears and failures. Remember, there is a possibility of failure every time we set out to achieve victory. Every time we chase our dreams, failure lurks. Every time we set a goal, failure looms. Every time we go to work, failure lies in wait. The only way to overcome failure is to meet it head on. This can come in the form of service, or it can come in the form of self-improvement. Either way, failure is a critical component of the success process that is sure to block your path at some point. The best thing to do is figure out how to build a bridge to get over your failure in order to become successful.

 

Affirmation: I accept that failure is a part of the process that I will overcome daily in order to become more successful.

 

 

Next Chapter (18): Integrity… an excerpt from the soon to be released book: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

Previous Chapter (16): Luck: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 15: Perseverance: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 14: Work: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 13: Risk: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 12: Knowledge: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 11: Character: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 10: Courage: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 9: Fear: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 8: Motivation: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 7: Goal: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 6: Passion: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 5: Vision: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 4: Dream: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 3: If: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 2: Faith: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

Chapter 1: Victory: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

 

Wake Up! 42 Ways to Improve Black America Now

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Wake Up! 42 Ways to improve Black America Now, by Gary A. McAbee

WAKE UP! 42 Ways to Improve Black America is a call-to-action for all people, including African Americans, who want to improve their lives today. The only way to improve is for each of us to take personal responsibility for our own lives. More and more African Americans across the nation believe that we can change things; we can make a difference. The American Dream applies to us too, and we have numerous shining examples to prove it. These examples are there for us to study and duplicate in order to become successful in this society. Success breeds other successes, if African Americans can follow the blueprint.

What is this blueprint? The blueprint is a series of ideas that can be used to live the life that we all are seeking. To teach these principles, this book is broken into six categories: History, Education, Self-Motivation, Self Improvement, Communication, and Support. This information is directed at African-Americans; however, regardless of race, gender, origin, or economic status, everyone can all learn and apply the principles in this book to become more successful. Best wishes and blessings on your journey through the following thoughts and ideas. I sincerely hope that the words that follow will inspire us all to improve our lives NOW!

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