Self-Reflection: Clark Kent vs Superman

Sometimes in life one must stop, take a self-assessment, and make necessary changes. I feel like I am at this point: the moment when you realize you need to take a look in the mirror to see who you really are.

Like many people, I can relate to characters in books, television, and movies. One character I always felt a connection to is Superman. Superman’s earthly journey started with humble beginnings as Clark Kent. He was just an “ordinary” person until he learned how to unlock his extraordinary abilities. He became Superman. Once Superman learned how to harness his power, he used it for good as a way to make things better. He eventually became great at everything he did, as long as he had his cape and super suit.

But Superman was really Clark Kent in disguise. Clark was the opposite of Superman in many ways. He was somewhat clumsy and socially awkward. He wasn’t very confident or sure of himself and his abilities. Clark seemed to want to reveal who he was, but every time he got the courage to tell his secret something got in the way. So he toiled in anonymity. In the meantime something strange happened: the intangible qualities he possessed as Clark Kent became as “strong” as the tangible qualities he possessed as Superman. So sometimes Clark wanted to be Superman; sometimes he wanted to be Clark.

Now you may be wondering how this well- known and beloved fictional character relates to this writer. Well I can relate to Clark Kent. I am cut from the same the clumsy, socially-awkward, unsure, and unconfident cloth as Clark Kent. I also learned how to unlock extraordinary abilities. Therefore, I am Superman too. My issue is learning how to harness my power and use my “super” powers for good.

What a lot of people miss is Superman has a complex. Superman wants to save the world, but sometimes he can’t. Psychologists have given this a title: the Superman complex. By definition, it is:

  • Superman complex– the feeling that others cannot perform one or more tasks successfully and sense of responsibility to save others

Superman feels he should be able to save the world. In one movie, he tried to perform so many life-saving deeds simultaneously that he did not have time to “save” the person he loved the most. This made him angry, and it caused him to question everything about himself and why he was given such extraordinary abilities. I can relate.

What a lot of people miss Clark Kent has a complex too. Clark Kent is torn between being “ordinary” and being super. My definition is:

  • Clark Kent complex– deciding how and when to use intangible qualities that go unnoticed or reveal tangible quantities no one knows exist

Clark Kent knows his intangible qualities make him great, but the world doesn’t. He also knows his tangible qualities as Superman make him great, but the world doesn’t. So he goes through life swinging back and forth. Clark Kent wants people to see that he is great. He wants to reveal who he really is, but without his super powers he can’t figure out how to do it. I can relate.

The world loves tangible qualities: good looks, physical appearance, wealth, material things. The world sees the “good’ in Superman. On the other hand, the world overlooks intangible qualities: care, compassion, helpfulness, love and support. The world does not see the “good” in Clark Kent.

Sometimes in life one must stop, take a self-assessment, and make necessary changes. I feel like I am at this point: the moment when you realize you need to take a look in the mirror to see who you really are.

Who am I? I am Clark Kent, but I am super too.

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2017 If… In 2018

2017 If… In 2018

 

In 2017, if you walked by sight, try walking by faith in 2018.

In 2017, if you thought about the negative, try accentuating the positive in 2018.

In 2017, if you spoke hard times into existence, try declaring life into every situation in 2018.

In 2017, if fear dominated you in any way, try summoning courage to overcome all challenges in 2018.

In 2017, if you asked man for advice, try asking God for revelation in 2018.

In 2017, if you stood in your own way, try entering onto a new and different path in 2018.

In 2017, if you lost your direction, try refocusing to move forward in 2018.

In 2017, if you gave up, try persevering and persisting in 2018.

In 2017, if you accepted losing a battle or war, try declaring victory over all hardships in 2018.

In 2017, if you felt inferior or unworthy, try believing in yourself and your God-given talents in 2018.

For more motivation and inspiration in 2018, visit Motivation for the World by Gary A. McAbee. Gary is an author, motivational speaker, and mentor.

Failure: Motivation for the World, One Person at a Time

 

Failure… an excerpt from the soon to be released book:

Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

Failure

It is an amazing concept! The thought that failure will be a part of the process of success is hard to believe. Let me be clear: failure will be a part of your journey toward victory. It is highly unlikely that you will undertake any task or series of tasks without making a mistake or two along the way. These mistakes are failures, and too many failures can end the pursuit of success. In order to understand the idea completely, we should break down the meaning of failure.

Failure means not achieving the desired outcome; it means not having success. Therefore it runs counter to everything we are discussing in this book. Yet, failure must be included here because it is a part of the success process. If you are not failing at something, you are not trying hard enough! It sounds cliché, but it is true that failure simply reveals one way something cannot be done. The crossroads we all face when we fail is what we will do next. This is where some people persevere, and others fade away. Some fight harder, while others end the battle. Some people advance, but others retreat. We need to look at failure from this perspective…

You cannot let failure cause you to doubt your victory. You cannot let failure shake your faith. You cannot let failure turn your “if” into never. You cannot let failure ruin your dreams. You cannot let failure steal your vision. You cannot let failure rob you of your motivation. You cannot let failure change your goals. You cannot let failure heighten your fears. You cannot let failure finish your quest for knowledge. You cannot let failure stop you from taking risks. You cannot let failure change your character. You cannot let failure prevent you from doing your work. You cannot let failure impede your ability creating luck. You cannot let failure end your need to persevere.

You cannot let failure stand in the way of your success! Never, ever!

…As we close the book on failure, it is important to understand that the world continues to turn regardless of whether or not you face your fears and failures. Remember, there is a possibility of failure every time we set out to achieve victory. Every time we chase our dreams, failure lurks. Every time we set a goal, failure looms. Every time we go to work, failure lies in wait. The only way to overcome failure is to meet it head on. This can come in the form of service, or it can come in the form of self-improvement. Either way, failure is a critical component of the success process that is sure to block your path at some point. The best thing to do is figure out how to build a bridge to get over your failure in order to become successful.

 

Affirmation: I accept that failure is a part of the process that I will overcome daily in order to become more successful.

 

 

Next Chapter (18): Integrity… an excerpt from the soon to be released book: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time by Gary A. McAbee

Previous Chapter (16): Luck: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 15: Perseverance: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 14: Work: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 13: Risk: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 12: Knowledge: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 11: Character: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 10: Courage: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 9: Fear: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 8: Motivation: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 7: Goal: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 6: Passion: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 5: Vision: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 4: Dream: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 3: If: Motivation for the World, One Word at a Time

Chapter 2: Faith: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

Chapter 1: Victory: Motivation for the World, One Word At a Time

 

Another Great Poem- Just in Time for the Olympics

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The Victor, by C.W. Longenecker

 

If you think you are beaten, you are.

If you think you dare not, you don’t.

If you like to win but think you can’t,

It’s almost a cinch you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost.

For out in the world we find

Success begins with a fellow’s will.

It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you are out classed, you are.

You’ve got to think high to rise.

You’ve got to be sure of your-self before

You can ever win the prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go

To the stronger or faster man.

But sooner or later, the man who wins

Is the man who thinks he can.